What is a “Player” Anyway?
1. A guy who is skilled at manipulating (“playing”) others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex.
2. A guy who doesn’t understand the meaning of relationship
3. A guy who often “dates” several girls at the same time (girls are often unaware of each other)
4. A guy who will shower you with attention one day but be unavailable physically and/or emotionally the next day. There will always be what seems like a legitimate excuse for the vanishing act that sounds highly convincing.
-Urban Dictionary
Mostly accurate, right?
Mom Always Said…
You’ve probably heard this over and over again:
“Do not fall for a player.”
“Avoid players at all costs.”
“Players will only use you and then get rid of you.”
Statically speaking, the last statement is probably true.
But unfortunately, most of us can’t control who we crush on, and can’t shut down our feelings.
When is comes to players, It’s especially hard because they are usually super hot, know how to melt you in seconds and treat you like a princess (until they get what they want).
Maybe you won’t agree with me, but I don’t think that a player was genetically programmed to be one. I don’t believe that players are emotionally unavailable.
I don’t think they are commitment phoebes and I don’t think they can’t change.
I know for a fact that even the hard-core player can become a “stayer”.
The Secret to Turning a Player to a Stayer
It seems that the player is unable to fall in love. It seems that he only cares about himself. It seems that he is only interested in sex and will toss you like an old sock after he gets what he wants.
He has tons of charisma and charm. Women are attracted to him like bees to honey and I’ll bet you feel you have nothing special to offer to make yourself stand out in the crowd.
But you’re wrong.
You CAN easily make him realize you’re the only woman he is really into.
You CAN break down his walls and shatter his fear (yes, he is afraid!).
And you can make a player fall in love with you and only you.
The trick is simply to BE DIFFERENT.
Not by making more noise.
Not through your clothes and makeup.
And not by mastering the art of flirting.
Just by being different from all the other women surrounding him.
You see, most women don’t know about the secret psychological loopholes in the male mind. All males.
I’ve learned about this loophole from Michael Fiore, a relationship expert (who admits to be a former hard-core player).
I’ve learned that you only need to take 3 simple steps to make any guy you want become obsessed with you.
Step #1
The first step you need to take is to make your crush fully understand that you DON’T NEED HIM.
Neediness, in any relationship, is the opposite of attraction.
Women are turned off by it too. Think about it: Are YOU attracted to needy guys who say that they can’t live without you? That seem to have no life other than you?
Even the most “experienced” players can’t resist a woman who knows her worth, loves herself and knows who she is, without ever bothering herself with how other people feel about her.
Step #2
As women are more emotionally evolved, they tend to like the drama.
Guys, on the other hand, hate the drama. They look for the calm and the peaceful.
This plants a “future seed” in their brain, without them realizing it.
This principle is a game changer. Michael Fiore explains it better than me HERE, and you if you understand this key element in being different, you’ll already have “an edge” over all other women.
Step #3
This is probably the most important step you have to take.
You have to make it HIS idea to pursue you and chase you.
Why and how to do that?
The answers are HERE.
How to Get the Guy You Want – Player or Not
If you can’t just get over your crush on a “player”, you should know you don’t have to.
You don’t have to become yet another phone number in his little black book.
Be different.
And get your guy.
Rooting for ya,
Lisa
P.S
What do you think? Can you change a player?
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