5 Signs You’re Dating an Emotionally Unavailable Guy

I’ve spent almost year emotionally invested in a guy – Thinking it would lead to real, lasting romance. As always in my relationships, I ignored every red flag, often reading into texts, compliments and random sentences – More than I should have.

I played up situations in my mind, assuming the other person was on the same page, only to wake up one morning and realize – I was infatuated and head over heals in the deep sea of love-land with an emotionally unavailable guy.

There’s nothing quite more devastating than to fall in love with an emotionally unavailable guy.

The trouble with emotionally unavailable men is that they are super-attractive, aren’t they? They are often the middle ground between a nice guy and a bad guy, and they show just enough of their personality to attract most women.

You know you have that special chemistry you’ve been waiting for your whole life. You have so much fun together. He understands you so well that he can complete your sentences. You are head over heels in love with him.

But when you are looking for signs that he feels the same about you, that he wants to take your relationship to the next level, that he wants to commit to you and only you – You can’t find them.

 It’s like waking up to an ice-water bucket splashed on your face. Heart breaking.

10 Signs He is an Emotionally Unavailable Guy

Here are the most common signs that your guy is emotionally unavailable, and below – What to do about it.

1. He SAID It

Make no mistake. If a guy specifically TELLS YOU that he is not interested in a relationship – He means it. This is the biggest red flag of an unavailable guy.

Guys do not tend to play games about this stuff (as opposed to women).

No matter how amazing he says you are, if you try to “label” your connection as a relationship he will remind you what he said in the beginning.

2. Flirting With Flattery

Men who are “too flattering”, too revealing and open may not be what they seem. They are like snake charmers. They are often very experienced with women and tend to give them what they and self-disclosure.

But they prefer the chase to the catch and once they know you’re hooked – They vanish. At least emotionally.

3. He Stops Calling When Things Get Serious

He loved chasing you. He went out of his way to make you go out with him, but when he feels he “had you”, he pulls away and disappears, at least for a week or two.

Again, a big red flag. Some guys just live for the chase and have no interest in an emotional connection with anyone (at least for now).

4. He Spends More Time With Other People

Just like a woman, a man who is in love, will prefer spending time with you more than anything else in his life.

He will rush over to see the minute he has some spare time. If he is not so much into you, he will prefer being with his friends, family or work.

5. His Words Don’t Match His Actions

He says “I love you” all the time. He compliments you often. He says he wants to be your best friend and be there for you, but when you need him he’s simply not there.

His excuses are great, and very convincing, but bottom line he doesn’t act the way he says he feels.

6. Mixed Messages

When a guy is full of mixed messages, it’s not a good sign. He may surprise you with a romantic date and then cancel on you several times in a row the next week. He also hates planning ahead, and talking about the future terrifies him.

Generally, when you can’t make plans with a guy, and he is not consistent with his actions, take it seriously. He hasn’t decided what he wants from you, himself and his life yet.

7. No Long Term Relationships in the Past

This doesn’t apply, of course, to 25-year-old guys. But if you are dating a 35-year-old “boy” and he hasn’t had a single long-term relationship yet, he may be emotionally unavailable (but this doesn’t say that he never will be).

8. Early Seduction

Be aware of guys who send sexual cues to early. “Seducers” do not believe they’re enough to keep a partner. Once the relationship gets real, they’ll sabotage it. Seduction is a power play and all about the conquest.

9. He Won’t Change his Status

If a guy won’t tell his friends and family about your relationship, it’s a big red flag. A guy who’s open to a new relationship and to commitment will have no problem “changing his status”, whether online or offline.

10. He Talks about his Ex (All the Time)

Listen carefully. If your guy constantly talks about his ex, and has any kind of anger, animosity or sadness around her, he has not completely healed. Worse yet, he may still be in love with her.

I know most people will tell you NO. Run away and don’t look back.

But my personal experience has proved this to be wrong.

There’s no such thing as an emotionally unavailable guys. Either he is not that into you, or you haven’t been able to break down his emotional defenses. Pure and simple.

There’s nothing wrong with you and everything you do (and did) is perfect. It just takes some special knowledge about how to capture a man’s heart (especially the emotionally unavailable heart).

The truth I’ve learned is there are only 3 steps you have to take to make a man fall in love with you (more than in love – Obsessed). These steps can make ANY guy head over heels with you, open up to you and share his true feelings with you and do everything he can to make you his.

I can’t reveal these steps because I haven’t come up with them, someone else did. But you can find them right here if you want. It’s up to you.

What’s your conclusion? Have you fallen for an emotionally unavailable guy? Are you going to run away or do something first?

Rooting for ya,

Lisa

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